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Making a Judgment and Being Judgmental

Before order­ing, I made a sim­ple judg­ment.  I asked for a de-caf non-fat, no-whip mocha and felt really good about it because I had suc­cess­fully reduced my fat intake to next to noth­ing.  I judged that it would taste as good with­out the fat, although that’s not quite true, but it was close enough to war­rant cut­ting out those extra calo­ries.  Besides, it didn’t really affect the taste of cof­fee and choco­late.  I admit I was pleased with myself because I had made what I con­sid­ered to be a good judgment.

Then I sat down.  Not four feet away, on an adjoin­ing table, stood a venti mocha with a pile of whipped cream that made my mouth water over its caloric obscen­ity.  It was like a Siren’s song, lur­ing cof­fee drinkers to imbibe things that quickly turn  into large curd cot­tage cheese before mak­ing a home on the thighs.  But I sup­pose that’s beside the point.

My point is, with­out real­iz­ing it, the minute I clapped eyes on all of that deca­dence I mor­phed from a per­son of sane judg­ment to a judg­men­tal holier-than-thou.  Hence the dif­fer­ence between mak­ing a judg­ment and being judg­men­tal — with a cap­i­tal “J.”

I’m doing bet­ter than he is,” I told myself, as I sipped my mocha and long­ingly watched him take a huge draw on his straw.

The truth is, it’s none of my busi­ness if he drinks three of those things before break­fast, and I’m not in a posi­tion to judge him if he does.  All I can do is make my own choices, for my own rea­sons, which amounts to mak­ing a judg­ment.  I become judg­men­tal when I look down my nose at some­one else for what they are doing.

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One Response to “Making a Judgment and Being Judgmental”

  1. Debbie Croft says:

    Judy, Great post as always. And I nom­i­nated you for the Lieb­ster Blog Award. Visit me at (if you haven’t already):http://debbiecroft.wordpress.com/2014/01/23/introducing-judy-la-salle/ and http://debbiecroft.wordpress.com/2014/01/21/not-quite-a-pulitzer-but/
    to learn more about it. You’ll have to accept my nom­i­na­tion, of course, answer a few ques­tions, and then make your own nom­i­na­tions! What fun! Love you!

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